So when do you step in?
Keeping a watchful eye on our children 24/7 is tough, I think we would all agree on that. They move with lighting pace (apart from when you’re in a rush) and in a blink of an eye they’re away leaving you in a blind panic. They also don’t have much sense and will often find themselves in an equal amount of funny and potentially dangerous situations.
What prompted this you ask? Well I was at the playground this week and noticed a child, probably about two and a half climbing up quite a steep slide. I noticed this as my two were at the top of the slide trying to come down. I looked around for the patent/guardian and saw a young man sitting watching something on his phone about 100 metres away. Thinking ok he’s saw me looking at him, saw his child going backwards up the slide and will come over or at least call his child.
Not a chance, he returned to watching his phone! After I had loudly said to my two “wait there until the girl turns around” , which thankfully they did and thankfully she did after I had spoken to my two again and again. Throughout my frustrated but polite calls the father/guardian sat uninterested watching his phone. I look back and wonder should I have approached and asked him to move his child? How would I feel if someone did that to me? (Ok I reckon and probably a little embarrassed)
What is she had fallen? Of course I would try to catch the child had she fallen but I wasn’t going to directly tell her to move, that just feels wrong and I feel would have sent a wrong message to my children who were watching. But if we take this train of thought to the next level we could look at toddler groups, I attend a few. Of course kids fall and bicker occasionally at these things but how many times do you see a shocked parent reacting only after their child starts to cry or when someone points out that their child is crying? I`m all for letting them enjoy themselves and feel 100% that they should be able to learn from the little experiences they have growing up but I do feel its wrong that more often than not it feels parents react to the issue rather than being proactive and anticipating issues/falls etc..
t get me wrong I`m not perfect and I would glance at my phone when a text or e mail comes through but I consciously only glance, not only because I want to give my kids my full attention but also because I want to enjoy the time and experience with them! So I guess what I am left wondering is when do you call out bad parenting and if you are brave enough to do it how do you approach it?